What on earth could this possibly mean? Does this mean that magick and motherhood (parenting for that matter) go hand in hand?
First, perhaps I should offer the Mystery School’s definition of Magick: “To turn nothing into something and something into something else.” Simple, right?
Through my own experiences with more than 22 years of parenting, I can now without a doubt give an emphatic, “Yes!” Magick and parenting are one and the same. I can only speak from my perspective of course and my experiences are my own, but I have learned a few things along the way.
I am currently a step-mom to one 24-year-old young man, who I met when he was 2. As well as a mother to a 19 year-old boy and a 15 year-old girl.
When I decided to become a mother I really had no idea what I was getting myself into – you think you know, but the truth is you can never know what the experience will be like for you until you begin.
You can talk to everyone on earth, read as many books as possible, prepare yourself with every available tool. But you will never know what you will feel, and how you’ll develop as a parent until the moment when that child comes into your life – however they chose to come to you. It doesn’t matter if they’re your biological child, step-child, or yours through adoption, etc. The journey is both rewarding and challenging.
What have I learned along the way — the lessons are vast, but here are a few:
- No matter how hard you try, you will screw up.
- No matter how much you prepare you will need more.
- You will change your mind on parenting techniques a zillion times over.
- Every child is different and will need different things from you.
- At some point your child will not like you. (There’s a chance that at some point you will not like your child, this does not make you a bad person.)
- You will discover a Love that you never knew existed.
- Every single second was/is worth it.
Roughly 13 years ago the concept of magick was introduced to me, and I started applying some of the principles into my life and therefore into my experiences as a mother. This started for me with my Life Activation and Empower Thyself Initiation. What I experienced and learned with only these two modalities blew my mind! The changes I experienced weren’t conscious at first, but when I started to realize the benefits of the tools and information, I began to bring these techniques more thoughtfully into my mothering.
I began to understand that how I was feeling contributed to how my children were feeling and therefore behaving – if I wasn’t in a good place emotionally then their behavior was affected and vice versa.
Wow! That was huge for me.
I had fallen into the trap of putting everyone ahead of myself and no longer put effort into myself.
With that realization came a lot more personal work. How do I keep myself in a good place most of the time? I really had no idea what that meant for me anymore. What do I want, what do I like, what do I need to feel joy? Nope, no idea. This was a big eye-opener for me, and the personal work began very slowly at first, to uncover some answers to these questions.
I also discovered that when my children weren’t feeling themselves emotionally I had the ability to bring in light and energy through my energy systems and flow it directly to them. This was huge for me and I began to use this technique often to help them to find their balance. Once we got good at using this technique I branched out and discovered that it worked both when we’re together as well as when I was away from them. After we got really good at this and they got older they began to learn how to do this for themselves.
In my learning about myself and my role within the universal structure, I began to shift my perspective on what was important in life and in working towards my purpose and what could easily be left as irrelevant. This also massively shifted my parenting style – much of what I was concerned with teaching my children became irrelevant in the big picture of the universe and what they were here to do. This newfound knowledge helped me to relax and parent more from this place of new understanding. Society is telling them they need to fit into a certain structure that’s not necessarily in their best interest and I was trying to help stuff them into that structure too. OK so massive change in plans here – instead of trying to force them into being something they’re not – shift the focus – allow them to be who they really are and develop into who they were meant to be. Your children don’t fit into the box that society offers them? Good, I say! It’s not their box to begin with.
This doesn’t happen easily or overnight – first things first. I realized that I had been parenting from a place of total attachment and fear. They were everything to me and I was making their lives about what I wanted for them, who I wanted them to grow into, who I thought they should be. This needed to change so that their life was just that, theirs. It had to be about what they wanted, what they liked, who they are meant to be. Ah yes, support, guide, love, provide structure – much different than the direction of societies idea of parenting.
I’m not suggesting that this form of parenting (or this form of living of live) is easy – far from it actually. It hasn’t always been easy to explain to my children’s teachers that yes, I want the best for them, but no I won’t pressure them into stressing out and striving for high test scores. You see, I realized that (most) teachers are very well meaning but their focus is moulding kids into good students. However my focus is helping them to become good people – big difference! This is “in the box” vs. “out of the box.” Living their life fitting into society or living their dreams, fulfilling their purpose!
I know how hard I’ve had to fight to regain my right to live my purpose – my children will have a head start. The rest is up to them, my role will always be to support, guide, love, and provide structure.
It’s been quite a while since I began this process and more times than I can count I have been so grateful for these discoveries. Through support, guidance, love and structure we’ve all been able to navigate many tricky areas of life. Coming out the other side stronger with a clearer vision of our paths. I have wondered many times what would our lives be like without this discovered knowledge and tools. Truthfully I don’t want to know the answer to this question. I choose to look forward to what’s in store for us on this journey and to do whatever I can to offer these amazing modalities to those I meet. I know what they have done for me and my family, there’s no doubt in my mind what they can do for you and yours!
Parenting is one of the most important pieces of me and I’m thrilled to connect with other parents and share experiences. Please feel free to get in touch with me if anything that I’ve said has resonated with you.
Kathleen can be found at Modern Mystery School Western World Headquarters, where she serves as the Director of Administration. You can reach her at firstname.lastname@example.org